Wednesday, November 16, 2011

You've Changed

It bothers me just a bit when people who haven't seen me say, "Girl, you've changed." Ummm duh! That's what people do when time passes.

Anywho, today while I was enjoying some me time I ran into this girl I went to school with when I first moved to Virginia. I'm not the one to hold grudges but, if I didn't associate with you in school, honey I'm not going to act all, "Ooooh hey girl, how you been? What you been up too?" That's just not me.

I didn't care then, still don't. But, I am a cordial person. So I said hey back, and hit her with the "I'm good". Then she hit me with the, "Girl you don' lost weight, and cut all yo hair off."

Obviously lol

I don't know, I just think it's weird when people say that I've grown or I'm becoming a beautiful young woman. It's like people think time stands still when I leave their presence.

But she did say one thing that made me feel good on the inside, she told me I looked happier. That is one thing I didn't realize people noticed then, that I wasn't always the happy.

But, ever since I left VA and went back to Texas to get my life together I've lost the weight and re-evaluated who I was and wanted to be. Just recently though did I realize that in order for me to really be the real me I had to change who I saw in the mirror.

So with all that excess fat, when all of that beautiful hair my grandmother gave me. So, I made the big chop and am living a napptural life. Slowly becoming the person I always feared to be, myself.

So, she was right in her observation, I am happier.

Life's Lesson when growing up: People never change, and we will never change who we are, we will simply become who we've always wanted to be... ourselves.

4 comments:

  1. Hallelujah!

    Ummm duh! That's what people do when time passes.

    Sheer brilliance!

    I wrote a similar post earlier this year talking about my own transformation from who I thought I was into who I truly am. Liberating, isn't it. And I'm so happy now, flaws and issues and all. I love me, and love being me. I did the big chop 18 months ago; that in itself was another liberation. Celebrate!!!

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  2. Not everyone turns into who they want to be, that requires self awareness and hard work. Congrats on getting where you want to be!

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  3. @Amaya- It's very liberating and believe me, I am celebrating.

    @hotfemmeinthecity- thanks!

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  4. Very well said.

    I hate it when people voice the obvious, as if yo weren't present during your weight loss and hair cut...

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