So, last night I had an extremely good conversation with my sister... and I admitted something that was so true and so on point that I had to Facebook it. The funny thing is, not everyone was feeling it. In fact, I got quite a few emails, an angry phone call, and even some odd text messages, all from guys to... go figure.
"You know, I be thinking I have feelings for people... turns out, I just be horny."-Yeah I said it, so what-
You gotta admit that is kinda funny and true. Let's be serious for a second people. Being horny can kind of be considered an emotion. Which is defined as any strong feeling. And being horny is quite a strong feeling. Anyone who says different has never been horny (or getting it in day in and day out).
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that every relationship I've ever been in is because I wanted some, it's just that, those guys who I should have known weren't good for me and who I knew I would never consider a lifetime partner, I've simply lusted over. They were sexy, and at the time, had it going on on the outside.
Being horny is an emotion people wear on their sleeve so to speak. One minute they're lusting over that guy or girl (b/c fellas y'all do it too) in the club. Saying stupid things like, "look at how he moving on the dance floor I bet he could ooh wee all up in the bedroom. Ima get that." Or "Dang shortie got an ass on her, ima hit that and make her one of my jants." But after a failed attempt or a change of topic, the feeling is gone.
In all honesty, I'll admit, I've entertained the thought of talking to a guy because of his physical, but I know that'll get me nowhere. As much as I love to look at a fine tall brother and think about how pleased I'd be in the bedroom, I need more in my life than some thang thang. And that's the truth honey.
I'm not knockin' you if all you looking for is some good good, but ummm don't let your hormones pick and choose the "relationships" you choose to be in because eventually, you're gonna wanna know more about the person you're having sex with... at least I hope so.
Horniness passes. The drama that ensues from picking a partner/mate/fuck buddy from being horny doesn't necessarily do so. I've been rather fortunate, but sometimes the horniness is absolutely devilish and can rob you of good sense. It's all about channeling it into creative efforts, but that isn't always possible.
ReplyDeleteDamn hormones. Good post.
Yeah, sometimes, being horny is the "worst" way to be because depending on how hard the emotion hits you, it can override your logic and common sense... and you'll hate yourself in the morning and especially if you went for it in a direction you'd normally not think of going.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I always thought women dealt with being horny better than men because they always seem to be able to be terribly horny - then "convince" themselves that getting with that guy or gal isn't worth it and, whoops, no more being horny. Total elapsed time between feeling horny and turning it off? About two seconds or for as long as it takes for her say she wants some of that... because she knows she really doesn't.
I don't think this happens because she doesn't want to be sexed; I'm of the mind that she doesn't want to deal with "stuff" after the fact that could be troublesome.
@Amaya- You made a good point, my sister fell out when I told her your response.
ReplyDelete@kdaddy23- Yes, it is the worst, but every woman has a different way of handling it, and most handle it very well. But I'm celibate so I'm great at turning it off. But I agree, we don't all want to be sexed, some of us want some mental stimulation . Then maybe, we'll give in.
It's not enough to make love to a woman's body - you gotta make love to her emotions, too... and if you can do that before she gives you her body, well, does it get any better than that? But, for most people looking to tap the tuna, it takes time to do this and, too often, when we're horny, we're only thinking about the physical release - and that's not all there is to it.
ReplyDeleteIt's never enough... very well said.
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